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THE OVERTHINKER

Have you ever been told you think too much?

Or “don’t overthink it?” “Don’t over analyse it?” “Don’t think too deeply about it?”

Do you have any idea how useless your thoughts are?

Let me explain…

It occurred to me just recently how much of a dreamer I have been, even from a very young age. I would imagine that I am a women of substance and meaning and live vicariously through movies with strong willed and independent women as well as fantasies. (Superheroes and the like)

Overthinker…

‘A person who thinks all the time

Has nothing to think about except thoughts

So, he loses touch with reality

And lives in a world of illusions’ – INZO – Overthinker.  Yes, it’s a song and these are some lyrics.

(No, I haven’t listened to the song, just thought I would add this little bit to the blog)

Overthinking is a downward spiral of thoughts, usually negative, coming from our fears and worries. Otherwise known as – the rabbit hole.

Overthinking involves dwelling on how bad you feel and thinking about all the things that you have no control over. Perhaps you think up many different scenarios, none of which are inevitably going to help you and will certainly not help you develop new insight.

Have you ever noticed how, when you’re down and on the negative side, how you easily pick up the negatives from others? You notice don’t you? It can really affect you and may even help to keep you there longer than you should be. And you may be feeling extra sensitive too.

Time spent overthinking will not enhance your life and thus is deemed useless.

However, time spent developing new thoughts and creative solutions and learning from your behaviour is productive.

Self-awareness is key. As soon as you are aware of the pattern of overthinking and how much harm it actually does, you can take steps to change it.

10 signs that you are an overthinker.

  1. Repeatedly relive embarrassing or traumatic events in your head.
  2. Your brain will not shut off and you have trouble sleeping.
  3. You ask yourself a lot of “what if…?” questions.
  4. Perhaps you spend a lot of time thinking about the hidden meaning in things that people say or events that have happened.
  5. Rehashing of conversations you have had with people in your mind, wishing you had, or hadn’t said that.
  6. Constantly reliving mistakes.
  7. When someone says something or acts in a certain way that you don’t like, you keep replaying it in your mind.
  8. Constantly worrying.
  9. Spend a lot of time worrying about things that are out of your control.
  10. At times you may not be fully aware of what is going on around you because you are too busy dwelling on things that happened in the past or worrying about what might happen in the future.

But don’t worry! There are some things you can do to stop the abundance of overthinking and spend your time taking action instead.

Change the channel. As soon as you are aware of your overthinking and you need to snap out of it, go for a walk, or a drive. Just going to someplace different can help take your mind off what you are thinking about and help to give a new perspective. Any perspective.

Your overthinking can be a real drag for those around you when it’s the same stuff time and time again. You are obviously feeling stuck. There are so many ways to look at things, the problem with overthinking is you become stuck in the same thought patterns that are only causing you and your loved ones harm. You need to find other ways of looking at things. Create some mental health exercises for you. The renewing of the mind. (exchanging the lie for the truth) Now, I know how good you are at thinking up different scenario’s so how about you use your powers to think up some positive scenarios. These will be your new thought patterns.

I remember Dr John Demartini saying that you should write a list of who you are angry with and why but then don’t put your pen down until you are able to thank them for a lesson learnt or an insight or something.

It gets easier! Once you recognise you’re overthinking you can redirect your thoughts to a better outlook.

Often our overthinking is overshadowed by a really bad attitude. Anyone agree? If you were to take note of your thoughts you would definitely notice this. Hopefully you notice first before somebody tells you . 😊

Try being grateful. This exercise is a great spirit lifter and I’m sure you’ve heard it before, but it’s true!

Take action! I just glanced over the coffee table and there is a book there called ‘Business @ The Speed Of Thought.’ By Bill Gates. And it occurred to me that my little revelation for productivity is the key. “As soon as you think it, do it.”

A change of atmosphere does wonders! Go somewhere that you like to be alone. Just spend some time with you. Go sit on the beach, or maybe even a bush walk. There is something healing about getting amongst nature. The key here though is to just be. Just you. Just be. Rest. Ponder something beautiful. I like to look at the ocean, the tide coming in and the marvel at the wonder of our maker. Then a dog walked by and stopped and was just barking at me. Some little cavoodle thing. So I gave the dog the finger and told it to “**** off.” The owner had a little giggle.

Now do you understand why our thoughts are useless?

How much time do you waste thinking about useless things?

Imagine if you could cut your worry time in half?

Imagine if you stopped worrying altogether and lived in a place of peace and positivity! (the key here is balance. Negative thoughts are often our default, so learning to balance them out with the positive is where you’ll find some peace.)

How much more productive would you be?

What if you took action instead of worrying?

Oh man! Convicted!!!!

Imagine if you wasted no more time thinking on useless things, and only thought about good and beautiful things? Things worthy of your time and energy. I mean, let’s face it, thinking negatively and worrying only drains you and makes you tired anyway.

Here are some questions I have been asking myself everyday of late.

“Where will you be in 5 years time if you don’t take action now on your dreams or vision?” “How will this make you feel?”

“What if you constantly and instantly took action?” (Instead of overthinking.)

“What is the one thing you can do right now that will get you closer to your goals, dreams, purpose and vision?”

It’s time to STOP my friend.

STOP!

All worrying.

All fears.

All distractions.

All can’t do thinking.

All can’t do attitudes.

All time wasting.

All thought wasting.

All procrastinating.

Stop dreaming, start doing.

Replace all negative thoughts with a little mantra of your own.

Once you can capture some of those negative thoughts, I want you to think of the positive solution to this.

For example:      Negative – I can’t run my own business.

                              Positive – I can so do this! I can do anything I put my mind to. (see what I did there?)

One more thing.

I was listening to the radio the other day and they were discussing what makes a women attractive. (I listened and took notes as I’m still single. 43 and single.)

One thing that really stood out to me was the turn off in a women (or anyone really) is a negative attitude. 

So friends, lets adopt a greater outlook.

Let’s get positive.

Much love,

Mel x

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